“You don’t stop laughing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop laughing.”

― George Bernard Shaw

Phenomena of life is such, that it starts with pain and ends with pain. In between all that happens, is nothing but ‘adaptation’. This adaptation defines our well being and state of health. Our inner self (environments) is constant interaction with the outer environment (i.e weather changes, society, family and other physical and psycho-social factors), this interaction defines life. Its a known fact, that everything that exists is going through a process of change. We start changing even bio chemically the moment we are born, and death, for that matter is nothing but Change. All through our biological life, we are in the pursuit of this adaptation in the best possible manner in order to remain healthy, which reminds me, Health is not just a state of being, but a constant journey. Health as defined by WHO is “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” Health for an individual, is a dynamic state, what it is to him now shall not be the same tomorrow and as we age, remaining Healthy becomes a challenge and for some unfortunate people, it becomes a liability. Thus it brings us to an understanding that Aging is the final stage in the journey of Health.

With age, our body goes through lot of changes, and so does the mind. Its during the Old age when our senior citizen fail to adapt with the outer environment. In spite of having their loved ones around let alone the financial resources, everyday becomes a day of challenge and survival for many. Normally, we can easily identify an old man or a woman by the way they look, they don’t really have to speak much for their medical condition they are suffering from. But what about what they feel within? This is an area where most fail to look and divert our attention to. Old age Depression or Geriatric depression is like a submerged iceberg in the ocean. We can just see the tip of it while most of it lies hidden within. No matter how many times we nip the tip on the surface, they would still be trapped in the darkness of their depression. It is a common problem in older adults and the symptoms of elderly depression can affect every aspect of life, impacting their energy, appetite, sleep, and interest in work, hobbies, and relationships.

Unfortunately, all too many depressed older adults fail to recognize the symptoms of depression, or don’t take the steps to get the help they need. There are many reasons that elderly depression is so often overlooked:

  • You may assume you have good reason to be down or that depression is just part of aging.
  • You may be isolated—which in itself can lead to depression—with few around to notice your distress.
  • You may not realize that your physical complaints are signs of depression.
  • You may be reluctant to talk about your feelings or ask for help.

Depression isn’t a sign of weakness or a character flaw. While life changes as we age—such as retirement, the death of loved ones, declining health—can sometimes trigger depression, they don’t have to keep you down. No matter what challenges one faces as we age, there are steps we can take to feel happy and hopeful once again and enjoy your golden years.

Causes of depression in older adults

As we grow older, we often face significant life changes that can increase the risk for depression. These can include:

  • Health problems – Illness and disability; chronic or severe pain; cognitive decline; damage to your body image due to surgery or sickness.
  • Loneliness and isolation – Living alone; a dwindling social circle due to deaths or relocation; decreased mobility due to illness or a loss of driving privileges.
  • Reduced sense of purpose – Feelings of purposelessness or loss of identity due to retirement or physical limitations on activities you used to enjoy.
  • Fears – Fear of death or dying; anxiety over financial problems or health issues.
  • Recent bereavements – The death of friends, family members, and pets; the loss of a spouse or partner.


While it’s natural to experience some grief in the face of major life changes, clinical depression doesn’t go away by itself, lasts for several months, and needs to be treated by a professional. If you suspect that your parent or loved one is suffering from depression, pay attention to these health indicators:

  • Irritability
    Did your mother used to be a content and happy person, and is she now cranky and easily irritated by small things? Sudden mood changes can suggest depression.
  • Loss of Self-Regard
    Kennedy and other experts say that one of the most obvious signs of depression in elders is seen when they show a lack of pride in their personal appearance. Perhaps your mother has stopped wearing makeup, or your father has stopped bathing.
  • Social Withdrawal
    Did you have lunch with your dad every Wednesday, but now he’s making excuses about why he can’t join you? Depressed elders tend to take on the “hermit mentality,” shutting out others and avoiding social situations.
  • Increased Pain
    One of the greatest myths about depression, says Kennedy, is that it’s only in the mind. In fact, “depression amplifies physical pain,” he says.
  • Recent Illness or Surgery
    Elders recovering from major illness or surgery, says Kennedy, are “much more likely to develop a depressive episode, and some go on to have a depression disorder.” In fact, research shows that 15% of people who are discharged from a hospital leave with depressive symptoms.
  • Recent Loss
    “Depression in breavement is common,” says Kennedy, who notes that elderly persons have a much higher risk than do younger people of plummeting into depression after the loss of a loved one.

How to Help Seniors Dealing with Loneliness

If you suspect your parent is lonely, there are several steps you can take to help them.

Share. Encourage your parent to open up to you. Get them to share their passions and their life experiences. Letting them share their life story will be therapeutic for your parent and will enrich your bond and understanding of one another. Many children of aging parents say these elder years are when they learn the most valuable information about family history and stories that they treasure forever and now are able to pass on to their children as well.

Help them stay active. For seniors who are still able to live active lives, helping them get involved again will help remove the isolation that causes loneliness. Some things you can suggest and help them get involved with are:

  • Join an interest group or take a class
  • Find a roommate or move to a senior living complex with people their own age
  • Get into social media so they can communicate with friends and grandchildren
  • Learn the local transit system if they can no longer drive themselves

Get help. Unfortunately, many elderly parents are no longer able to get out and do things on their own. If their mobility is limited due to physical frailty, memory loss or other issues, isolation adds to loneliness and may lead to depression and health decline. Many grown children are working adults, often with young children at home. They are unable to spend enough time with their parent to really make a difference. For these situations, supplementing family care with affordable elderly home care services can fill the gap and provide both care and companionship.

Seek Affordable Companion and Elder Care Services


We at Phenixcare provide you with the golden mean by providing you with a caregiver who takes care of their ageing needs. Our special caregivers are trained by our Geriatrics and Nursing teams to look after the elders.

The services which we offer under elder care are:
1] Providing holistic care to the elders for their daily needs.
2] Helping them with their medical needs like blood sugar and BP monitoring, medications, hospital visits and physiotherapy.
3] Assisting them to do their household chores, daily walks and mobility if they are bedridden or too weak to move by themselves.
4] Providing them with a Phenixcare doctor for weekly/monthly visits to track the caregiver’s progress as well as to track the health of the elderly.


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